• SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MIDDLE SCHOOL PARENTS:

    1. HOLD YOUR CHILD ACCOUNTABLE!  When we make excuses for children, learned helplessness becomes a skill they master.  Parents who hold children accountable for their actions will have less conflict and difficulties with them as teenagers.
    2. TRUST TEACHERS AND THE EDUCATION SYSTEM!  Ask questions about what may be confusing.  Train your child how to ask teachers for help.  Stay positive, communicate with teachers, and be involved in your child’s school experience.
    3. HAVE FUN!  Spend quality time with your child.  This is key to a healthy relationship.  When you are having fun, be sure to communicate with your child regarding their friendships, lunchroom and classroom experiences.  They will be more likely to share with you any difficulty or needs they may have during a positive interaction with you.
    4. DROP OFF AND PICK UP YOUR CHILD ON TIME!  Life brings unexpected obstacles and things will come up.  Being late once or twice is fine, but when you're late dropping off or picking up your child four out of five days a week everyone will notice.  It is awkward for your child and it hinders their academic growth.
    5. LET YOUR CHILD FAIL!  Then, lock up their video games, computers, and cell phones as a consequence.  It is best to learn consequences now while your child is in middle school rather then when the stakes are much higher in high school!  Set your child on a path of success, and let them realize that there are consequences for their actions.  Do not solve their problems for them.  They will never learn the skills for success when you do everything for them.
    6. TAKE A STEP BACK!  Let your child ask their teachers when they forget or lose something. Or, help your child problem solve before emailing the teacher.  Training your child how to communicate with adults is a valuable skill.
    7. ASK QUESTIONS!  If you have questions, have your child to email the teacher.  After this response, if you still have questions, ask the teacher to call you.  It is always best to communicate with a teacher directly before jumping to conclusions and involving administration.  Teachers are your best source for answers about the class or your child.
    8. IF YOU CHILD IS SICK, KEEP THEM AT HOME!  When a child comes to school sick, they not only unable to concentrate and learn, but they expose others to their illness.  Also, if your child gets their teachers sick, they will lose valuable instruction when their teachers must call in a substitute.  For everyone’s sake, keep your sick child at home until they are well.
    9. FEED AND NOURISH THEIR HEALTH!  Less sugar, less fat, and more exercise.  Fit bodies are better at learning and retaining information.
    10. BE A ROLE MODEL!  When parents model how to value education at home and are partners in their child's educational success, children typically outperform his or her peers as result.
    11. WORK WITH TEACHERS, NOT AGAINST THEM!  Make sure your child understands that their parents and teachers are on the same page in terms of discipline and academic success.  A child should never believe that their parents will prevent them from consequences at school when they do not make wise choices as students.  Don’t assume your child is telling you the whole story.  Often, children mislead parents to avoid consequences.  Consider the source and the situation.
    12. ENCOURAGE FACE-TO-FACE INTERACTION WITH OTHERS!  Provide your child with exposure to other children in diverse experiences (music, sports, scouts, performance arts, etc.) so they may learn how to collaborate appropriately with others.  Less technology and more interaction.
    13. BE INVOLVED!  Inevitably, the parents who attend all school functions are often the parents of the students who are doing well.  Some parents do not realize when their child is failing.  Respond to voicemails.  Check your email.  Attend all parent conferences.  Do your part in your child’s educational experience.
    14. CHECK YOUR CHILD’S ACADEMIC PLANNER!  Ask your child how they are doing in school.  Check your child’s planner for the work they completed during the school day.  Ask to see what they are working on and review it with them. If you are unsure, ask the teacher.
    15. CHECK YOUR CHILD’S GRADES ONLINE!  Ask the front office if you do not have access to the Citrus Hills online grade book.  Teachers work hard to update student marks in their grade book twice a month.  Often, grades may be posted weekly.  Be sure to keep track of your child’s progress.  Email the teacher if you have a question.  If your child is struggling in more than one subject area, request a meeting during their prep period with all your child’s teachers and involve your child in the meeting.